My mantra for this Monday:
Always assume people are doing their best.
This statement is sometimes hard to remember or believe when people do things that are hurtful or inconsiderate. However, I try to give the person the benefit of the doubt by repeating this mantra to myself. As a result, my disappointment or anger is dissipated and I am helping my overall health and well-being.
It is much better to assume the best rather than the worst. Maybe the person is having a bad moment, day, or even season! Maybe this person isn't actually trying to be hurtful or inconsiderate--maybe it is just a bad choice or decision.
Many times, the offender has a medical (including mental health) reason or cause for the inappropriate or hurtful behavior. Anxiety, sensory issues, and/or developmental deficits could be to blame, to name just a few. Sometimes these challenges cause the offender to hurt loved ones, such as his or her parents. Often, this is really just a cry of frustration and not actually meant to hurt someone (emotionally and/or physically). So, remind yourself to always assume people are doing their best.
Whether the offender is a stranger or someone close to me, I try to remind myself that I should be calm, patient, and kind. It doesn't help me or the situation if I stay upset with the person who is being less than kind at the moment.
When I am disappointed by someone's behavior (or choice of words), I try to remember the mantra for this Monday.
Always assume people are doing their best. :-)
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